//Don’t worry about it. I will ask individuals carefully every time about their preference of label terminology before I use the term that you were unsure about. It is important to honor people’s preferences.
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//Omg thanks for the babies guys :’) <33333 I’ll answer in the morning hee.
also as a queer person, and knowing how hard our predecessors worked to claim back that word for ourselves, it’s a-ok.
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I’m agender and consider that to be a subdivision of genderqueer, and no one’s going to stop me from calling myself that, honestly. And one of my closest RP friends is trans and we’ve talked about this at length, because someone went full on Gender Police on me because I like to make jokes about my own pronouns – not anyone else’s, but mine. He fully agrees – everyone gets to choose what they are called and how they express their gender. And genderqueer is mine.
❤ thanks for the insight.
Whoa whoa whoa. I do not know where that is coming from, but queer is not a slur. The community has been working VERY hard to reclaim the wording, as you said. I use queer to identify myself, too. And so do many people in the LGBTQAI community. Queer is OUR word, and it is not a slur. You are using the correct terminology here. I do not know why it’s being considered a slur, and I am curious to have more information from that person. Because I am just as confused as you right now.
//Okay you are the person I was most scared of upsetting with mistaken terminology because you are my best friend so hearing this is really really a relief. I was kind of in tears (which I don’t say to coopt the discussion away from other people, but I just am kinda flummoxed).
Agreed. I think it’s a matter of preference for what people prefer to use as an identifier, but as a queer person that uses it interchangeably with other identifiers, I think it’s more than okay to use. Especially in the context you did, which was very obviously not using it as a slur.
Thank you.
lol yeah, I’m just not entirely sure about whether it’s something you should say or not. I am sure that some people self-identify as q*eer and that some people are very uncomfortable having people use that word to refer to them. I’ve been following you for a while and I’m positive you didn’t mean any harm by it, I just thought you should be aware that it’s something to be careful with.
//Okay thanks.
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nooot really sure genderq*eer is a word you should…
@masterfulxrhythm *blinks* I’m not sure what that person is talking about. I know plenty of people that identify as genderqueer. The Q in LGBTQ is for queer. So I don’t see a problem.
Okay. That was my understanding too???? I mean. I’m demi so I can identify as queer myself and do so without issue. However I am cis, so if there are people on my dash uncomfortable with genderq*eer I will just avoid using it. I just don’t know what proper alternate terminology is? Just trans? Demi boy or demi girl? Agender? Nonbinary? But my understanding was all those things are separate and not interchangeable with genderq*eer so like. What do I do?
I’m not trying to start anything here, I legit want to know how to proceed without making people who are not cis uncomfortable. My best friend is a trans man and I feel terrible right now.
I’m genuinely so sorry to have caused distress.
nooot really sure genderq*eer is a word you should be using. some people might use that word to identify themselves, but it makes some people uncomfortable.
//Oh I’m sorry. It’s just that….several people who identify that way have not only said it’s okay but asked me to use that term. They say it’s a term they’ve reclaimed and that it makes them angry when people state that the term is still a slur. They say that to say q*eer is a bad word is to erase the history of reclaimed agency and struggle behind it, for older people who are LGBT. This has been the overwhelming majority of my experience. It is also regularly a term used in academic discourse about gender, sex, and sexual orientation (it’s called Q*eer Theory and Q*eer Studies, for your reference).
However if you are trans or nonbinary and it makes you uncomfortable, since I am cis, I will refrain from using the term in the future. I know that no terminology speaks for everyone within any group.
Please know that I was given the impression that it was the preferred and respectful term and that I’m very sorry. Offense was unintentional and I will bear this in mind in the future.
@auniverseaway since those were tags on my reblog of your post trying to show you solidarity, I am very sorry if I offended you. Let me know if you need me to take down my reblog.
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