Nah, you know, it’s okay.  I mean first of all, I’m glad you felt you could vent to me without me being cruel in return; hopefully that shows I’m approachable and nice in some regard. ❤   Especially since 90% of my blog lately is spam about how much I adore Thirteen lolol. 

What you’re talking about isn’t the same thing as the flimsy smokescreen excuses that male fans, and misogynistic fans in general, keep putting up on social media, when you can point to instances in previous, male, incarnations of the Doctor that hold the same “problems” that these fans claim make the Thirteenth Doctor “terrible.”  Like, “she’s too optimistic and clownish!” and you’re left scratching your head wondering what on earth grimdark show they’ve been watching since the 1960s.  

Moreover, you’re not saying “Jodie  Whittaker ruined Doctor Who!” like these fans almost unilaterally are saying.  You’re just saying that every time there’s a new Doctor, you have to undergo an emotional adjustment period.  And that’s perfectly fair.  And I’m sorry people are conflating that with the sexist assholes crawling out of the woodwork like cockroaches.   I personally would argue that the sparse scenes we’ve been shown do already confirm that Jodie has the role under her belt, a combination of confused melancholy and emphatic, sometimes brusque, adventurousness, but not everybody will feel that way off the bat.  

Honestly I think I understand where you’re coming from because everyone has a “first” beloved incarnation of a recurring Time Lord character on this show, usually the Doctor or the Master, and I know I do.  When it comes to the Master, the first ended up somehow being the favorite too, for me.  And I have gotten a lot of flack (mostly over with and done, thankfully), over choosing Simm!Master as my favorite Master. I have even been accused of being “against” Missy, both as a character and as an expressly “female” Master, when in reality I adore Missy: she just doesn’t touch me on a personal level the way Simm’s performance does. 

 I always have to make it explicitly known that the chosen gender of a character has zero to do with whether or not I love them: all while saying that, also, in the science fiction community in particular, establishing both the Doctor and the Master as women is an epochal event deserving exuberant celebration.   The Doctor especially, imho, because she’s a hero figure and a role model to girls and young women now.  

It’s a balancing act, because while you don’t want to disregard the Doctor’s gender–because acting like “gender doesn’t matter” is a sign of gendered privilege and shouldn’t be encouraged–you also don’t want to make EVERYTHING about her gender either, eclipsing other nuances of characterization and storytelling intent.  

It can be tough, I know. I hope your experience in our fandom improves soon.  ❤